Swapna Rajput

Finding THE ONE is not so easy as it is written in novels, shown in movies or television shows. Things like Love at first sight, saving the girl from goons or any snags, meeting in rain or in an accident and falling in love rarely or never happen in real life.

Whether you are dating someone seriously or you falling in love with someone and situations more like in India your family has arranged your marriage with someone, even great your family would get you married with someone who they chose for you! In any situation of beginning the relationship, this question ‘is she/he the ONE?' inevitably arrives in your mind.

So to help all those who are searching ‘THE ONE' or ‘soulmate' we have researched few situations, where you can easily find out whether you are with your ONE or not. It's not even that easy as you get few social media quotes like ‘if a boy treats well with the waiter in the first meeting at the restaurant he is the one' or ‘If a girl feels shy in front of you at first meeting she is good for you'! Any relationship needs time, and in that time period, if you see all or most of the following points in your person positively then congratulations!! You found your ONE!

1. Going well with your family- In most of the love stories, the first thing you have to face is Family! In India, people get married first then fall in love! So if your partner goes well with your family then you found your true love! Most of the families behave well in the beginning but later on situations changes, you'll find how good your partner is, in worse scenarios for example, she knows your mother doesn't like her, your father doesn't care for you and your partner's life, your sisters and brothers nag her (no offence to sweet in-laws ;)), yet she behaves well with all of them, and tries to do things beyond her patience level. If she behaves well with them with full of heart, just like her own family buys gifts for your family, treats your family's young ones sweetly and respect your elders then my dear friend, you are with right girl! Vice versa,  he knows how nagging your mother is, how possessive your father is, you have an over-enthusiastic sister and irritating brothers,  yet he goes well with all of them and treats everyone with love and respect, only because he likes you and wants to see you happy.

2. Missing you- Missing someone is the beginning of love. Your person would miss you badly when you are away, He/she would wait for the moment to see you again and never finds anyone attractive in your absence.

3. Your happiness is your person's happiness- He/she is happy when you are happy. Your person does all the things to keep you happy. Your person would regularly bring you gifts or, take you out for movies or eating or cooks for you, or else does things which you like. Helps you in your work and supports in decision making. Your person’s first intention is to make you happy if you get sad on various things.

 

4. Supports you- He or she would support you in all the good and bad situations. Your person would accept your dreams and support and puts efforts to fulfil them. He/she stands with you during crisis console you and tries to do things which make you happy.

5. Your best critic- Though she/he support you in all ups and downs of your life, on the contrary, your person is your best critic, She tells you where you went bad in your life and works not to criticise you but to make you a better person. He won't hesitate to say smallest thing like your dress is not pleasing not to disappoint you but he wants you to look great all the time.

6. He/She knows all little things about you- Like for example, she knows how much sugar you take in your tea or coffee, what you think and feel for her and others. How alcoholic your mind gets while meeting your friends. In the same way, he knows what mood swings you get in your periods and maintains his patience level, he knows how excited you become when you see a great dress or how you maintain your crave when you are dieting. Your person knows almost all your favourite movies, food items etc.,

7. Looks don't matter- Your person will fall in love with you beyond the limits of looks. He or She would love you and accept you with all your imperfections. You didn't shave and didn't take bath and looking ugly at times, yet she loves you. You are drunk & hung-over, smell disgusting! She shouts at you to get fresh but she loves you with the bottom of her heart. He doesn't care you got few pimples due to your hormonal changes or got little fat due to circumstances. He loves you for what you are not for how you look.

8. Fights often but can't stay apart- As they say ‘we fight with our loved ones'. Your person fights with you very often on small things but can't stop talking to you more than a day. But do mind one thing, if the fights are more often and it takes more than a week for your person to talk to you and even after that he/she not leaving his/her ego, then you better call off this relationship. Because small fights and arguments are sweet, but fights with ego and dishonesty aren't.

9. Trust you!- Trust is the basic need for any relationship. Though jealousy is normal in love, but over possessiveness and not trusting your partner is never good for a healthy relationship, if your partner has full trust on you then you are with the right person. He won't interrogate you when you are going for official trips, or even for the girls night out. She won't feel insecure when you stare some chics, work with your female work partner, or when you meet your ex!

10. Respect- Your person respects you for what you are and who you are. He/ she would not talk bad about you in front of others. He/ She would never put you down in front of others. They know you and uphold your self-respect in front of you and others. 

Now you know how to find out your soulmate, keep in mind one thing that every love story is unique and personal, enjoy your love story.

Hello readers,

Here I am back with another interesting post on Bollywood, it's always an interesting and one of the most popular topics across. We are always curious to know about our beloved stars. I have got some rare and unseen pictures of many actors and singers of Bollywood. Let's see if you can guess them right with their pictures.

Hope you enjoyed this post, that's all for now. I will keep on updating when I get more rare pictures like these. Do comment if you find any.

This article is not for men who have good understanding and are happy with their women and have no questions or complaints for them! Yet, if you feel to explore more about a woman and her wants you are free to read it. I am sure you might have experienced some scenarios in your life!

Men are determined as simple creatures of mother earth; decisively on the contrary, women are complicated! From millions of years, thousands of philosophers (basically male) drop their arms of knowledge when it comes to the question ‘What woman wants?’

This woman’s day, I tried to explore exactly what a woman want by sending few questions to the wonderful ladies (of different nature and from different lifestyle) I know and got the below answers. This theory is applied to all the women around the world, as all the women are one and the same when it comes to this universal question. These are the random questions I asked women and extracted the ‘answer’ for the question of this topic from their answers. Confusing? It must be!! Let’s get to the point-

1.    What is your schedule of the day?
Various women, whether full-time working or part-time working or home makers, gave similar answers to this question. All have busy schedule since wake-up in the morning till the time of bed, they wake up before everyone does and starts their day. Every woman works for her family throughout the day, from organising home, managing groceries, paying bills, handling children till preparing food for her family. If a mother takes care of her child it is her duty (Where as father is also equally responsible to handle the job but it’s always bumped on the head of mother ever since from her womb time!) and if a wife takes care of her husband, who exactly is equal to another child in the house! It’s again her duty! For women, life is not as simple as for men, who works in the office, fills their stomach and bodily needs when hungry and lay on the bed! Many men complain that woman gets irritated for small things with no reason! After all her hectic schedule, if a woman gets irritated on any small thing that disappoints her for e.g.- not helping her in the house or not taking care of ‘your’ belongings, it’s natural! Do not complain!

2.    What makes you happy?
Married women explained that being with their kids and husband is their happiness. Single women found happiness in phone, for committed; it’s the company of her partner, and some darlings find happiness in time spent with their pets, some find it in gossiping! Some in long drive (Please make a note- All women don’t like speed driving or rash driving so don’t try it to give an impression of being macho!). For her, happiness lies in quality time spent with their loved ones!

Well, it’s clear that age-old saying ‘A woman finds happiness in money!’ is completely nonsense! She has all the capabilities to earn equivalent to a man but she sacrifices her dreams and career for her family! All she needs is a secured happy life with her dear ones, since they are her treasures! But yes, if she claims money, it’s only for the financial freedom of her family, she is not demanding you to be a millionaire, just chill! (It will be an added advantage if she gets a millionaire! Common, who doesn’t want a rich life??)

3.    What makes you Sad?
I got different answers from different females! Teenage and young girls feel sad even if their make-up goes off or hair gets messed up! Well, when it comes to women, they feel sad if they fight with their loved ones. Reason for the fight is often no or less communication, low attentiveness from their partner. Chatting is birth right of all women (Chatting can be associated with gossiping as well)! Women even feel sad if they don’t find someone to talk! So Dude, all a woman needs you to do is, LISTEN. I understand its tough for men, because most of the time conversation ends with lectures! But if you can show a woman you have the capacity to pay attention to her speech and find a key to unlock her agony, it will automatically improve your relationship.

4.    What is your favorite time pass?
Today technology and smart phones made life easy for everyone. Anytime and from anywhere women can pass their time with their favourite mode of action, chatting!! But for many it’s reading or watching television or listening to the music or spending quality time with their family or working on their hobby. However, reason to ask this question to all women was, even after all the work they do at home and office they have ability to find out leisure time out of their busy schedule and calm down all the anxiety in their own way. Well, most of the men find only solution to this question is ‘drinking’!

5.    What is your goal?
Some women gave no answers and some want to raise their children in such a way that they should become successful and good human being in the future. Many women are ambitious, they want to grow their business, earn fame and money, want to go for world tour etc., this can happen only when they get all the independence from their family. Women tend to take care of their family on priority, after that, comes everything. No matter how big their degrees are, how far they go on their career path, end of the day they choose their family over their profession. Some women earn to support financial position of the family. Thus, most of the women answered supporting their family directly or indirectly is their goal.

6.    What is your ideal romance idea?
An ideal romancing idea for every single woman is nothing but candle light dinner, long drive with romantic music on, with their partner! However, women are passionate about sex! Caressing, embracing, kissing, soft touch, pleasant talk of romance (Yes, women want some talk here as well!!) are the best ways to please her.

Women are always much better looking; their soft skin, curvy figure, and sensitive touch sensually arouse men. It is truly one of their great virtues that women agree to spend time in men’s company, in spite of men’s determinedly different appearance with their sharp angles, hairy face and body, and hard to handle tough centres. Besides men’s good nature, women care about looks as well, not as much as men do! Therefore, all women’s suggestions to their men- try to keep yourself clean, shave regularly, be disciplined, wear clothes that fit, keep yourself in shape, live well-groomed and minimize the level of which you remind them of an Ape!

7.    What do you want to get rid off?
Woman’s body goes through many changes from puberty to delivery till menopause. Stressful days filled with caring for others make her less attentive towards herself. So, lots of women want to get rid of the fat that accumulated all over their body! Trust me, many women are struggling hard to get back into the shape by juggling in between kids, family priorities and office.
Some wants to get rid of their dominating monster-in-laws due to cynicism and sarcasm in the very first place! Nobody wants to be with someone who is sarcastic and cynical all the time, it’s exhausting. An optimistic life partner and family members are inspirational. You can make out, if any woman is annoyed, there is a reason behind that. Try to figure out the reasons. Talk to her if you really love her and find a solution (Talking or communication is the solution to chill-out her anger!) and improve the relationship. Give her some surprises, they need not to be expensive ones; even sparing a helping hand in the home is also a surprise for her.

8.    What you want to hold on?
She is not asking much, she wants to hold on the family and love she seek in it. She can look forward to adventure, excitement, commitment, devotion, love and great sex! She wants to hold on good figure, confidence and equal stature in the society.

9.    What are your expectations from your family, friends and the society?
As said before, a woman really doesn't expect much from others, because she explores everything in herself, so expecting the unexpected things from others doesn’t exactly attracts her. As a human, all she needs is fun filled and secured life, support, understanding, independence, trust and honesty from her partner, family, friends and the society.

She wants a society, in which she has equal independence as any man and post her pictures with no fear of getting it misused!
She wants safe and alert society which doesn’t harm her or her children for its evil needs!
She wants her partner not to make her swear on her mother, on her character, if she has true friendship with other males.
She desires her parents to support her in achieving her aim, the same way they support their male child.
All she wants is attention which has been lost from eras in this man made society.

To conclude, reading all the above answers, men may find it female chauvinist type. All I can say is in India women are associated with goddess of power-Shakti, goddess of prosperity-Laxmi and goddess of knowledge-Saraswati, yet they are treated poorly by men and the society in many ways, women may not be physically strong as men but mentally they have more strength than men and handle every ups and downs wearing a smile. So instead of teasing and exploring her state of mind, cherish every moment, live an adventurous life with your woman and lead a happy life.

Happy International Women’s day to all the lovely ladies!!