Swapna Rajput

Hello readers,

Here I am back with another interesting post on Bollywood, it's always an interesting and one of the most popular topics across. We are always curious to know about our beloved stars. I have got some rare and unseen pictures of many actors and singers of Bollywood. Let's see if you can guess them right with their pictures.

Hope you enjoyed this post, that's all for now. I will keep on updating when I get more rare pictures like these. Do comment if you find any.

This article is not for men who have good understanding and are happy with their women and have no questions or complaints for them! Yet, if you feel to explore more about a woman and her wants you are free to read it. I am sure you might have experienced some scenarios in your life!

Men are determined as simple creatures of mother earth; decisively on the contrary, women are complicated! From millions of years, thousands of philosophers (basically male) drop their arms of knowledge when it comes to the question ‘What woman wants?’

This woman’s day, I tried to explore exactly what a woman want by sending few questions to the wonderful ladies (of different nature and from different lifestyle) I know and got the below answers. This theory is applied to all the women around the world, as all the women are one and the same when it comes to this universal question. These are the random questions I asked women and extracted the ‘answer’ for the question of this topic from their answers. Confusing? It must be!! Let’s get to the point-

1.    What is your schedule of the day?
Various women, whether full-time working or part-time working or home makers, gave similar answers to this question. All have busy schedule since wake-up in the morning till the time of bed, they wake up before everyone does and starts their day. Every woman works for her family throughout the day, from organising home, managing groceries, paying bills, handling children till preparing food for her family. If a mother takes care of her child it is her duty (Where as father is also equally responsible to handle the job but it’s always bumped on the head of mother ever since from her womb time!) and if a wife takes care of her husband, who exactly is equal to another child in the house! It’s again her duty! For women, life is not as simple as for men, who works in the office, fills their stomach and bodily needs when hungry and lay on the bed! Many men complain that woman gets irritated for small things with no reason! After all her hectic schedule, if a woman gets irritated on any small thing that disappoints her for e.g.- not helping her in the house or not taking care of ‘your’ belongings, it’s natural! Do not complain!

2.    What makes you happy?
Married women explained that being with their kids and husband is their happiness. Single women found happiness in phone, for committed; it’s the company of her partner, and some darlings find happiness in time spent with their pets, some find it in gossiping! Some in long drive (Please make a note- All women don’t like speed driving or rash driving so don’t try it to give an impression of being macho!). For her, happiness lies in quality time spent with their loved ones!

Well, it’s clear that age-old saying ‘A woman finds happiness in money!’ is completely nonsense! She has all the capabilities to earn equivalent to a man but she sacrifices her dreams and career for her family! All she needs is a secured happy life with her dear ones, since they are her treasures! But yes, if she claims money, it’s only for the financial freedom of her family, she is not demanding you to be a millionaire, just chill! (It will be an added advantage if she gets a millionaire! Common, who doesn’t want a rich life??)

3.    What makes you Sad?
I got different answers from different females! Teenage and young girls feel sad even if their make-up goes off or hair gets messed up! Well, when it comes to women, they feel sad if they fight with their loved ones. Reason for the fight is often no or less communication, low attentiveness from their partner. Chatting is birth right of all women (Chatting can be associated with gossiping as well)! Women even feel sad if they don’t find someone to talk! So Dude, all a woman needs you to do is, LISTEN. I understand its tough for men, because most of the time conversation ends with lectures! But if you can show a woman you have the capacity to pay attention to her speech and find a key to unlock her agony, it will automatically improve your relationship.

4.    What is your favorite time pass?
Today technology and smart phones made life easy for everyone. Anytime and from anywhere women can pass their time with their favourite mode of action, chatting!! But for many it’s reading or watching television or listening to the music or spending quality time with their family or working on their hobby. However, reason to ask this question to all women was, even after all the work they do at home and office they have ability to find out leisure time out of their busy schedule and calm down all the anxiety in their own way. Well, most of the men find only solution to this question is ‘drinking’!

5.    What is your goal?
Some women gave no answers and some want to raise their children in such a way that they should become successful and good human being in the future. Many women are ambitious, they want to grow their business, earn fame and money, want to go for world tour etc., this can happen only when they get all the independence from their family. Women tend to take care of their family on priority, after that, comes everything. No matter how big their degrees are, how far they go on their career path, end of the day they choose their family over their profession. Some women earn to support financial position of the family. Thus, most of the women answered supporting their family directly or indirectly is their goal.

6.    What is your ideal romance idea?
An ideal romancing idea for every single woman is nothing but candle light dinner, long drive with romantic music on, with their partner! However, women are passionate about sex! Caressing, embracing, kissing, soft touch, pleasant talk of romance (Yes, women want some talk here as well!!) are the best ways to please her.

Women are always much better looking; their soft skin, curvy figure, and sensitive touch sensually arouse men. It is truly one of their great virtues that women agree to spend time in men’s company, in spite of men’s determinedly different appearance with their sharp angles, hairy face and body, and hard to handle tough centres. Besides men’s good nature, women care about looks as well, not as much as men do! Therefore, all women’s suggestions to their men- try to keep yourself clean, shave regularly, be disciplined, wear clothes that fit, keep yourself in shape, live well-groomed and minimize the level of which you remind them of an Ape!

7.    What do you want to get rid off?
Woman’s body goes through many changes from puberty to delivery till menopause. Stressful days filled with caring for others make her less attentive towards herself. So, lots of women want to get rid of the fat that accumulated all over their body! Trust me, many women are struggling hard to get back into the shape by juggling in between kids, family priorities and office.
Some wants to get rid of their dominating monster-in-laws due to cynicism and sarcasm in the very first place! Nobody wants to be with someone who is sarcastic and cynical all the time, it’s exhausting. An optimistic life partner and family members are inspirational. You can make out, if any woman is annoyed, there is a reason behind that. Try to figure out the reasons. Talk to her if you really love her and find a solution (Talking or communication is the solution to chill-out her anger!) and improve the relationship. Give her some surprises, they need not to be expensive ones; even sparing a helping hand in the home is also a surprise for her.

8.    What you want to hold on?
She is not asking much, she wants to hold on the family and love she seek in it. She can look forward to adventure, excitement, commitment, devotion, love and great sex! She wants to hold on good figure, confidence and equal stature in the society.

9.    What are your expectations from your family, friends and the society?
As said before, a woman really doesn't expect much from others, because she explores everything in herself, so expecting the unexpected things from others doesn’t exactly attracts her. As a human, all she needs is fun filled and secured life, support, understanding, independence, trust and honesty from her partner, family, friends and the society.

She wants a society, in which she has equal independence as any man and post her pictures with no fear of getting it misused!
She wants safe and alert society which doesn’t harm her or her children for its evil needs!
She wants her partner not to make her swear on her mother, on her character, if she has true friendship with other males.
She desires her parents to support her in achieving her aim, the same way they support their male child.
All she wants is attention which has been lost from eras in this man made society.

To conclude, reading all the above answers, men may find it female chauvinist type. All I can say is in India women are associated with goddess of power-Shakti, goddess of prosperity-Laxmi and goddess of knowledge-Saraswati, yet they are treated poorly by men and the society in many ways, women may not be physically strong as men but mentally they have more strength than men and handle every ups and downs wearing a smile. So instead of teasing and exploring her state of mind, cherish every moment, live an adventurous life with your woman and lead a happy life.

Happy International Women’s day to all the lovely ladies!!

On this holy Hindu festival of Mahashivratri day, I would like to share this article of describing the holiness of Lord Shiva.

In Hindu mythology, we believe there are 36 crore Gods and Goddesses! Out of them, Lord Shiv, along with Prajapati Brahma and Shri Hari Vishnu, forms a part of the highest echelons of the hierarchy amongst all the Gods, known as the Trimurti or the divine Trinity. All three fit into the scheme of things perfectly with their respective roles being complimentary to each other.
• Brahma, the first in the Trinity, is the Creator and Master of all divine ceremonies. 
• Vishnu, the Preserver God who incarnates to help mankind, face the challenges whenever evil forces become too dominant in the Universe.
• Shiva, Destroys at the end of time and thus, sustains the endless rhythm of the Universe ensuring a continuous cycle of renewal and growth. My book Amazing legends of India also describes the puranas in the chapter ‘Hindu mythology’

Who is Shiva?

As per Shiv puran, Shiva is the Lord who was believed as born by himself in the form of Lingam and was never born in any womb! He never took any Avatar as Vishnu takes to preserve the world. The 11 Rudras were born only out of his energy. This theory make us think that he is the most powerful Lord in Hindu mythology. Conversely, there are debates from millions of years on comparisons of Shiva with Adishakti and Vishnu.

It will be an endless topic if we discuss on the power of Shiva, so in this post we will try to enlighten ourselves about Mahashivratri. The worship of Shiva and Shakti represents an ancient rite of recognizing the Universe as a balance of the Male and the Female, the achiever and the energy, we find several origins of worshiping this mighty God directly or indirectly, with various names not only in India but also outside India, till Europe in west and many eastern countries of Asia.

Celebrating Mahashivratri is also believed to be the night when Shiva appeared in the form of a Lingam of fire and challenged the Gods Brahma and Vishnu's contest for supremacy. That was the night; Lord Vishnu's magnanimity came to front while Brahma's cheating led to Shiva putting the curse that he would never be worshiped!

The Somnath temple in Gujarat commemorates this very occasion. Somnath is also the place, where Chandra (Moon) got his life back. Chandra loved his wife Rohini more than his other wives, all his wives were daughters of Dakhsha Prajapati, and angry Prajapati cursed Chandra to be died soon, as he didn’t provide equal love to his other daughters whom he married with the same oath. All the Deva’s chanted Mahamrutyunjay Mantra to save Chandra’s life and with the blessings of Shiva, Chandra got his life back with a promise to provide equal love to all his wives and he happily resided on the forehead of Shiva to gain the energy, which was lost after the curse, hence the Lingam in place is known as Somnath (Som-Moon). 

With the above incident of Shiva cursing Brahma, we see a reason why Shiva would have invoked violence in Daksha Prajapati. After all, Daksha was the eldest Manas-putra of Brahma and could not have taken kindly to this unfair criticism of his father's position from the Head of the Trinity to its bottom! Perhaps, that was also the reason that he hated the idea of his most favoured daughter Sati, falling in love with the man he so heartily despised!!

The story of Sati- She was an incarnation of Shakti, and first wife of Shiva, who sacrificed herself in the creation of this universe. She was reborn as daughter of Daksha, and falls in love with Shiva. She eventually married to Lord Shiva against her father's wish and ultimately sacrificed herself in the Yagnya fire at Kankhal, Haridwar to protect her husband's honour in Daksha’s court. Shiva’s Rudra, Veerabhadra beheads Daksha after this incident and Shiva carries the dead body of Sati on his shoulder lamenting his loss till Lord Vishnu uses his Chakra to disintegrate the body. Each part of the body falling on Earth provides a Divine foundation and thus are formed the 51 Shakti-peethas (Seats of Energy)! These places still exist in India, Pakistan, and Bangladesh etc.,

Although, the story shows a completely new side of Shiva where the supreme Master of senses loses control and decides to take revenge by beheading Daksha! This is what makes Shiva more relatable to humans. It shows that even at the highest level of spirituality, the bonds of affection may cause a person to slip and plunge into gloom or anger.

However, Shakti was again reborn as Parvati. Shiva and Shakti married later again on the same day of Mahashivratri at Kailash, the abode of Shiva.

Importance of Mahashivratri- Shivratri festival falls on the 14th day of the dark fortnight in the month of Phalgun, it pleases Lord Shiva the most as it is believed that worship of Shiva with devotion and sincerity on this day pardon a devotee from past sins. The devotee reaches the abode of Lord Shiva and lives there happily. He is also liberated from the cycle of birth and death and attains moksha or salvation.

It is also considered to be an extremely significant festival for women. Married and unmarried women observe fast and perform Shiva Puja with sincerity to appease Goddess Parvati, one who bestows marital bliss and long and prosperous married life. Unmarried women also pray for a husband like Lord Shiva who is regarded as an ideal husband.

According to Hindu mythology, Shivratri fast is extremely auspicious and it’s rated as equal as or more than performing an Ashwamedha Yagna. The day is noticed as Shiva’s personal day in which, Shiva is in Samadhi and all Shivatatva’s in the universe are more compared to the other days. Thus, fasting, vigil throughout the night (jaagran), discipline and chanting ‘Om Namah Shivaay’ on this occasion helps a devotee to control the two great natural forces that trouble humans, Rajas guna (passionate activity) and Tamas guna (inactivity), hence evils like lust, anger and jealousy, born of Rajas and Tamas are ignored. Devotees offer water, milk, dhatura, bhaang, bel patri, akwan flowers to Shiva.

So, let us conclude this post by chanting ‘Om Namah Shivaay’.